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A Love Bomb for Lauren

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Hey Lauren, it’s February 10th, 2011. Well, technically it’s February 11th, but I say the date ends not at midnight, but when you go to sleep. And I haven’t gone to sleep yet . . . you know how that goes. Anyway, it’s February 10th – your one-year anniversary of being on the Love Bomb team. You were one of the very first ones, my friend. And seven months ago you took over leadership of the team. You’ve now officially been running it longer than I have. Congratulations . . . and thank you.

I remember the very first time I ever noticed you, when someone pointed me to a piece of writing you had done. It was really, really good, so I went to your blog to read more. And what I found there was even better. After reading for 30 minutes, I remember tweeting something like, “This is what a blog should be. Raw, real, vulnerable, beautiful.” And that’s just your writing! Your photography is gorgeous. Intelligence is crazy. Personality is fun. You look like a model. And your heart . . . that’s the best of all. Do you know why I asked you to take over the team so long ago? Not because of anything listed above. That stuff helps, of course, but your heart, Lauren – you just straight-up LOVE people, in a way that I knew I never could.

Every week you lead the Love Bomb team in reaching out to a person who’s struggling, and you lead by example. When I read what you write to each person, the sincerity and empathy in your words are striking. And not many people know this, but you follow up with the people we help. You keep in touch with them. You become friends. You take a vested interest in their lives. Wow. That’s what people in this world need so much more of, and you’re always willing to give.

So today, on your anniversary, I wanted the rest of our team to give a little something back to you. Everyone goes through personal struggle, and you’re no different. I understand that you’re in the middle of a rough time right now, and so do some of our team members.

But know this, Lauren:

You.
Are.
Loved.

I tell you that a lot. I know you know it. But what I don’t tell you nearly often enough is that you changed my life. You brought joy back into it when I was in a very dark place. I finally started laughing again, and 9 times out of 10 when I laughed, it was with you. That did so much for my soul last year. So, so much.

You were surprised the other day when I agreed with someone about how talented you were. That made me realize that I’ve been pretty quiet with my praise for you. Now that we’ve been friends for so long, and you’ve worked for/with me for so many months, I totally understand that you’re brilliant. Because I know how much you’re capable of, I also expect a lot from you. And while I think that being demanding drives you to become better in certain aspects, I never want you to feel that I take you for granted.

I don’t know if you know this, but I still read almost everything you write. I look at all your pictures. I talk about you to everyone. In fact, often when my family members ask how I’m doing, they ask how you’re doing as well. Because you are family to me. You’re my sister, Lauren, and I want nothing but the best for you in this life, whether you continue working with me or go far off into the world to do whatever is next on your list.

Thank you for always being one of my best friends.
Thank you for leading this team by example.
Thank you for loving unconditionally.
Thank you for being you.
You are enough.
You are loved.
I love you.

LaurenNateBlissdom

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When You’re In Over Your Head

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I feel like I just took a happy, laughing, running leap into the deep end. And only now that I’m here do I realize why this part of the pool is such a challenge. So what do you do when you’re in over your head? You reach out for help, of course.

Many of you know that my business partner (J. Money) and I launched a new project on January 1st: Love Drop. Each month we work to change the lives of one family or individual by bringing community together around the concept of micro-giving. Last month we were able to do some amazing things for Jill, a single mom in Chicago whose family had become homeless for the second time. If you’d like to learn more about that story, you can find it here.

Love Drop can be labeled as social entrepreneurship, which means it’s a (barely) for-profit business – we take out just enough from the contributions to pay taxes and run operations. It makes enough to be sustainable so we can continue to do it without going into debt. We love what we do, and we are honored to be a part of these families’ lives each month.

In January we brought in around $5,000, of which we gave Jill around $2,500, as well as many other gifts of goods and services from team members all over the world. For this month, February, we chose a recipient family that really, really touched our hearts, and in doing so we took on a challenge that is well beyond the strength of our team at the moment.

This family lives in my own city of Milwaukee, which I’m really excited about. Here’s the story in a nutshell: The Rewolinski family consists of a mom, a dad, and three children. The two older boys (Ethan, 7 and Alex, 6) are autistic and need constant attention. The family has been trying to obtain a specially trained service dog to help with the boys . . . especially to stay near Alex, who will attempt to run away at any time. They’re all ready to have a dog placed in their home by a wonderful organization called 4 Paws for Ability. I know it’s a fantastic organization because J. and I took a trip down to Ohio to inspect the facility and make sure it was awesome (which it was).

4 Paws works with the family to place a dog in their home, free of charge and with no waiting list. The one thing the family must agree to do is provide $13,000 worth of fundraising for 4 Paws, which is a non-profit organization.

And that’s where Love Drop comes in.

We made it our goal this month to help them raise the $13,000 necessary to get them started training with their dog and get it placed in their home as soon as possible. Great goal, powerful story, amazing thing our community can help out with this month, right? Right. Except with our business model, we’d have to bring in double that revenue in the form of contributions to make it happen. And we’re simply not there yet – we just launched this project a month ago, and our membership is still small.

Also, neither J. nor I have ever done any kind of fundraising before. Ever. You see, usually we keep it simple, and choose to work with those that we can easily help within the framework of our project. Bringing in $5,000 – not too hard. Bringing in 5 times that – ridiculously tough.

And since we help a new family each month, we have very little time to bring in the money. In this case, it means that we only have until February 28th to raise enough money to get this done. I think we’ve brought in close to $2,000 in the first week, which is good, but not nearly enough.

Before I tell you what we’ve decided to do about this situation, I want you to meet the family, and especially the two boys we’ll be helping. Alex is in the black shirt, and Ethan is the one with the full head of hair. :) Check out the video below to take a peek into their home. If you don’t have much time, skip to the last two minutes or so.

Just so you know, the way Love Drop works is that at the end of every month, J. and I literally go visit the family at their home and present them with everything that the community came together to help out with for the month. The Rewolinski’s live in my hometown of Milwaukee, just a few miles from me, and I don’t want to go to their house on February 26th and tell them that our community and our city could not do enough to help them get their dog. I want to go in there happy and confident, knowing that this city and our national network came together to do something incredible this month, something that will quite literally change their lives.

J. and I talked about it, and we realized that we aren’t going to be able to get this dog if we do things the normal way. But we do think there’s a way to bring in $13,000 if we work our tails off and have a lot of help from individuals and small businesses, especially those in the local (Milwaukee) community.

So here’s what we’re doing about it: We’re not going to take any money for taxes or operations for Love Drop this month – we’re going to funnel all of that money directly towards fundraising for 4 Paws so we can help this family get their dog. Every penny that we get this month will go towards the $13,000 needed for the service dog. Love Drop can take a hit in February . . . Ethan and Alex can’t.

There’s no way we can do this alone, though. We really, really need your help to get it done in such a short timeframe. So we’re asking you to pitch in however you can for Ethan and Alex. Here’s what you can do:

1) Give money through Love Drop
You can do this quickly and easily on our site here: http://www.lovedrop.us/get-involved. There are directions provided to subscribe monthly via PayPal, to do a one-time donation via PayPal, or give by credit card or physical check. We will make sure that everything we get this month (up to $13,000) goes straight over to 4 Paws and is accounted for correctly. If you’re an individual or business that gives a significant amount, we will include your information on our “Friends of Ethan and Alex” page here.

2) Give money directly to 4 Paws
If you want to make a larger, tax-deductible donation directly to 4 Paws, you can do so here: http://www.4pawsforability.org/donation.html. (Just make very sure to note that the money goes toward the Alex Rewolinski account.)

3) Spread the word
If you can’t help out financially, please help us spread the word this month by sharing this blog post with your network, or by sharing the story on Facebook or Twitter using the buttons at the top of the Love Drop homepage. If you have a blog, you can also join our Blogger Network, and we’ll send you an email with free content that you can copy/paste to share this story with your readers.

So that’s what I’m focusing all my energy on this month, guys. I’m not gonna lie – it feels really weird to write all this and ask for money and help from you. I’ve never done anything like this before, and it puts me in a really new and uncertain situation. But the fact of the matter is, my discomfort this month is nothing compared to what this family deals with on an daily basis, and if I can spend all my time in February making sure we come together to help change their lives, then I’m happy to do it. Yes, I’m in over my head – but I wouldn’t have it any other way right now.

I know this was a really long post, and I thank you all for reading and being a part of such a large group of caring people.

J. and I really want to make this happen for the Rewolinski’s this month. Thank you for helping us out – we truly appreciate it.

Much love,
Nate

Photo Credit: Jef Harris

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You Can’t Outsource Yourself

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I used to write a blog. Then, as I began to build and grow all my projects, I realized that I didn’t have the time to write on a consistent basis. So I outsourced writing duties on the ItStartsWith.Us blog to other people. And now here I find myself, three months later, realizing that I am no longer a blogger.

To be fair, I never really considered myself primarily a blogger – I’ve always been a more project-oriented guy who just happens to write adequately and often enough to be viewed as one. But still, I was proud of my writing. And now I am not.

Back in October I brought on someone to manage all the writing on the site, including contributions by a small group of staff writers – not professional writers, but people pulled from our team who were interested in writing, gaining experience, getting their voices heard, etc. At that time I wrote my last “real” blog post, “Your Best Friend.” Other than that my only contribution to the blog has pretty much consisted of updates on the various projects I’m working on, except for one small bulleted list that I wrote in 30 seconds as a note to myself, but decided to publish. Ironically (or appropriately), that one tiny post generated more traffic than any of the other articles in the past three months.

Please understand that I’m not taking anything away from the people I brought on to help me with this. They did exactly what they were asked to do, and I really like some of the stuff that came out of it. The simple fact of the matter, however, is that they’re not me. And I hope you understand that’s not meant to sound prideful . I’ve simply realized that when you have a blog that’s built on personal experience and a familiar voice, you can’t just up and quit and give the job to someone else. It doesn’t work like that. I’ve felt this in my heart for a while now, but after trying it for three months, I also have the numbers to back it up. Every single applicable statistic on reader engagement is down (and down big) over the last three months. Across the board, folks.

I know in my heart what I want to do: I want to be proud of my blog again. And it’s so very difficult to say to those who have been helping out “Sorry, I don’t need you anymore,” but it’s what I’m going to do. Because at the end of the day I need to be 100% satisfied with the caliber of my work, and this is the way to do it. I’m taking back my blog, starting now.

I’d like to thank all the good people at BlissDom for reminding me to take another look at what I’m doing with my online voice. I’ll write more about that experience later (now that I write again, ha), but for now I’ll leave you with something that Scott Stratten (@unmarketing) said in his keynote that really hit me. He was answering the question: How often should you write?

“You should write when you have something to say.”

And that’s what I intend to do from now on.

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The Mysterious Letters Project

Last year, we set out on a mission to surprise an entire town with handwritten letters with our Mysterious Letters project. Our leadership team pulled together, brainstormed, used the Internet to find as many addresses as we could and hoped our project would be a success.

The town we picked was Omer, Michigan. With the help of a few amazing It Starts With Us members (you know who you are), we were able to send handwritten letters and postcards to almost everyone in Omer. We also received e-mail messages from members around the world, which we wrote on stationary and sent to the town in Michigan.

However, the amount of handwritten letters we received from members outside of the leadership team was disappointing — two letters (so, thank you to the two of you who took time to do this).

Overall, this project turned out to be an interesting experiment. Perhaps more members would have written letters if we promoted the project more, or if we created more enthusiasm around it. Albeit the lack of member participation, the Mysterious Letters project was still a success, as we did end up doing what we intended from the beginning — surprising a town with anonymous, handwritten letters. It certainly wasn’t a failure. Thank you to all who participated.

After reflecting on the way the Mysterious Letters project turned out, I’m willing to try this again with another small town. How about you guys?

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Love Bomb + Love Drop for Jill!

Just wanted to throw up a quick video update for you guys on this week’s Love Bomb mission as we partner with Love Drop for Jill, our very first Love Drop recipient! Check it out.

Love you guys!

You can read more about Jill here on the Love Bomb website, or go directly to the blog post to leave her a comment.

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