Sorry for the delay between posts — I’ve been on vacation for the last 10 days or so. Today was my first day back, and while reflecting on the trip, I realized that I had learned some things. Here they are:

1. Talk to people
I’m a very high introvert, so it’s always been difficult for me to strike up a conversation with a stranger or be comfortable in situations with new people. I’ve been making an effort to get better at this, and you know what? People usually don’t mind when you talk to them. And you know what else? They very often have interesting things to say. So (and I’m talking to myself here more than anyone else) get out of your comfort zone and engage a stranger in conversation. You may be glad you did.

2. Smile
I had plenty of opportunities to see this one in action. There is a huge difference between the the way people treat you when you have a neutral or negative expression vs. the way they do when you’re smiling. I’m not saying you should plaster on a fake grin wherever you go, but actually try to enjoy the exchange you’re having with the person at the counter, on the subway, or at the restaurant. Smile, and watch what happens.

3. Ask for help
I found myself guilty of this one in the grocery store. I spent 10 minutes looking for one particular item, traversing the entire store a few times, when I could have just asked someone where it was. If I had only asked, I could have saved some time and also gotten the opportunity to practice #1 and #2. Oh, and here’s an added bonus to asking for help (and in this case I actually do practice what I preach): if you don’t know what you’re doing in a certain situation, don’t pretend like you do. Admit your ignorance, ask for help from someone who knows what they’re doing. I see four benefits to doing this. First, it lets you practice #1. Second, it lets you practice #2. Third, it helps you learn something new. Fourth, and most importantly, it makes someone else feel important. Their interaction with you, where they were able to help you out and feel good about themselves at the same time, may well be the highlight of their day. Give them that gift, and pay attention to the service and hospitality you’ll get in return.

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