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20100223-kindnessHave you ever sat on a train and wondered what people were thinking? How many people were trying to resolve a heartbreak? How many people were lonely? How many people needed help making it through the day? I think about these things everytime the train starts and I see a guy across from me with his head lowered, his headphones blaring, and a complexion that looks like he hasn’t slept for days. I always wonder what he’s thinking, what he’s experiencing; and after a while, he looks up, our eyes meet, and I look away.

And that becomes my biggest regret of the day.

I always have big thoughts when it comes to changing the world. In my mind, I am the mediator between Israel and Palestine, the peacemaker between China and Japan, and the one who comes up with a compromise between North Korea and the rest of the world. In my mind, history is irrelevant, and there is no bitterness that cannot be resolved.

On a smaller scale, I am the reason that there’s a cure for breast cancer, the reason for why there are no more starving children, and the one who makes the poverty line completely indistinguishable.

And in the last 3 minutes, with all the mediating and the curing, I am exhausted. I have done so much, but nothing at all.

But what would happen if I took all the time and energy I gave to thinking about world peace and cancer, and turned it towards something more immediate—something I could do now? What if you could make a difference in the world at this very second, even as you’re reading this post? What if you could smile at every stranger? Offer a helping hand?

Why can’t you?

I’ve always thought that the phrase “making a difference” was a little over-used. You see it at every fundraiser, every nonprofit organization, every school, and we use it so often that it makes me wonder if anyone actually knows what it means, or how to go about it.
For me, a person who makes a difference in my life is the person who smiles at me as I walk by, the person who tells me what I’m wearing that day looks nice, or the person who picks up my orange when the grocery bag breaks and all the food is scattered all over the floor. She’s the girl who has just left the building, but sees me walking in with a handful of books and goes back specifically to hold open the door. He’s the guy who sees me tearing up at a coffee shop and tries to cheer me up by giving me a penny and telling me that it’ll bring me luck. And they’re the people who read my blog and send me emails and comments about how my enthusiasm has helped them get through the day.

It constantly amazes me how easy it is to make a difference, how, without much effort, you can make someone’s life that much better. A lady once told me that I couldn’t change the world because I hadn’t survived anything, and didn’t have any experiences to share. Back then, I didn’t have a response because I didn’t know very much, but if she said to that to me today, I would have responded with, “well, I might not be able to the change the world today or tomorrow, but you’ve got to start to somewhere”.

I used to tap my feet to the rhythm of “It’s a Small World”.

Maybe I’ll start doing that again.

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  • Yes!!!! I'm the kind of person who makes a difference!

    I've always just told people I like what they're wearing because it makes me happy to see the smiles/surprise on their faces. I find that I actually do it more when I'm having a bad day.

    Glad to know that it really does make a difference to others!
  • I'm guilty of spending too much time thinking about how much I want to make a difference and not enough getting out there and doing it. That's why I love ISWU - when I find my thoughts drifting, I know at the same time I'm thinking about how I can help, there'll be a bucketload of people all across the world doing a little something to make the world that little bit better.

    Wonderful post :)
  • i really do believe change starts with as simple as "random acts of kindness". at this monastery stint i'm at, they really emphasize "think good thoughts. say good words. do good actions." the way i figure is that we EACH take part in changing the world, each and every single day. sometimes these changes are negative (arguably, most times). so imagine what the world would be like if we each did a bit more to reach out and do something positive?
  • Sometimes the littlest things make me the happiest. On Father's Day, my 17 y.o. nephew said, "You look wonderful today." I'd really taken care with my make-up and it was nice knowing that it was worth the effort because I haven't felt much like wearing any lately.

    If that lady had said that to me, I would've replied, "I've survived 21 operations and talked 2 people into having life saving surgery (they had cancer), so don't tell me I haven't survived enough to change at least a little part of the world." It's presumptious to assume that someone hasn't survived 'something'.
  • Sullyty
    Beautiful piece! Reason being for me is, I ride the subway all week and my head goes to that same place. Thanks for putting it into words!
    Ty
  • Brie
    Nate, I love how you think! You are changing the world and absolutely making a difference! You have changed my world and I know many others because we are now aware that we have the opportunity and the ability to make a difference, everyday. Its the smallest things that can mean so much to someone else. You have opened our eyes to this.
    Thank you!
    And the next time you are in LA lets go to Disneyland and we can both tap our feet to "It's a Small World"
    Have a wonderful day!
    Brie
  • Thanks, Brie! Except I didn't write this one . . . Miss Cheryl did. :)

    I was wondering if I could get away with her writing a guest post without me introducing her. Guess not... :)
  • Birochic
    ..and its the smallest acts of kindness that actually makes the big differences in the world, that caring word, a smimple touch and honest compliment....
    The biggest mistake we make is think that small differences dont matter, they do and they can change a life.
  • As always, pure gold Cheryl.

    The small, seemingly insignificant things generally end up being synergistic. Bravo for the reminder.
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